bengalis special characteristic tend setup familial relationships person acquainted older address names brothers sisters uncles aunts grandparents good intentions feel irreverent address middle aged gentleman arunabho satyen addressing impossible make quick judgment call decide relationship establish friend based gentleman lady close make elder brother dada sister didi middle aged kaku uncle mashi aunt women women subtle transition mashi mashi-ma occur quite careful judgement couple meet call husband kaku paternal uncle wife mashi maternal aunt absurd impossible relationship meet couple kaku kakima mashima meshomoshai relations mama maternal uncle pishi paternal aunt acquaintances doubtful social status relationship scale suggest walk pavement gariahat kolkata hawkers roadside vendors give perfect judgment ladies experienced development didi boudi mashi mashi-ma thakuma experts younger relational attributes show respect seniors growing older realized longer assume kaku mashi dada didi realization stronger contemporary older addresses dada people older heartache days young lady place visibly upset middle aged friend mine called aunty personally detached trivial issues claiming matter addresses recently twenty struggling decide call kaku jethu mesho-moshai strong feeling high time change system agree feel comfortable address seniors names feel awkward listen young half calling quite common country names feel uncomfortable community hindi speaking people resolved issue adding suffix sudipta-ji sutapa-ji show respect works names long bengalis suffix prefix babu male names debi female names show respect sudipta-babu mrinalini-debi urban elites years babu debi lost gravity today feel insulted addressed babu debi solution solution names names identify person address person names lets make dada older accept calling mesho-moshai shyalika sister-in-law let's drop pretense nephew niece call subhashis subhashis ajit ajit shanti shanti sounds radical accept compromise suffix lets women sign respect irrespective call subhashis subhashis-da ajit ajit-da krishna krishna-di remember dada didi imply familial relationship suffixes quite time easier adopt resolve complicated issues awkward situations bengali naming conventions longer young sucharita feel guilty calling friend subir subir-da subir call sucharita-di cross boundaries bengali social formalities 